In light of certain comments made on other blogs, particularly the responses to James Martin's question: "
What is a Gay Catholic to Do?" made on the
America blog and some of William Lindsey's reflections about JPII Catholics responding on that blog, I thought I would offer this brief survey of young JPII Catholics at my international school. These young students have many distinct advantages over more provincial young people isolated within one culture. They have lived outside their own country for some years and have acquired a far more universal, multicultural perspective. They are part of the international school culture as well, which is supremely liberal and healthy in its wide open tolerance (International Schools as a whole love to hire partnered gay couples, to make just this point with their students and community). And all but one of them attend a very liberal parish in the city, whose pastor has gone on record repeatedly in favor of full rights for gays. Though I've mentioned the name of the parish previously on this blog, I'm just that paranoid at the moment not to mention it here, lest word of this reaches the Cardinal of Prague.
Melissa, the most devout of my Catholic students, and the most upset when actors swear on stage or are otherwise disrespectful: "God loves all God's children," spoken with a smile and a sense of irony, since she's quite aware of the condescending uses the phrase has been put regarding gay people. Would like to see a 'blessing' for gay couples in Church and would be the first to attend the ceremony, but not yet comfortable with using the designation, Marriage. Melissa's mom, "Oh, I have no problem with it at all (Gay marriage).
Rusty, the naughtiest of my Catholic students, with a wicked sense of humor: "I'm really homophobic, Mr. Cameron. But at least I can admit it." And in response to my compliment about one of his photos on facebook, "Jesus Christ (sic!), I look gay in that photo. But at least I can admit it. That I look gay, that is, not that I am gay." On Gay Marriage, "Well yea because it will keep you from...you know? (No, I don't know, Rusty, keep me from what.)" Well...from tricking!" Rusty is the most concerned student I have about my single status. If I come into an 8 o'clock class in a particularly chipper mood, he will say, "Oh, so it was that kind of an evening." He refers to me on Facebook as ,"My very wonderful and very strange gay drama teacher." Rusty attends Sunday mass regularly with his parents and delights in refusing to refute the rumors that his father is a CIA spy. Rusty's usual method of preparing for a rehearsal or a drama performance is to have sex with his girlfriend in her house behind the school, and I can always tell when this has happened. Thinks all celibate priests are pedos. The future of Catholicism right here, folks!
Will, the campiest of my students, loves to dress up in drag and wiggle his but on stage, but is really straight, which makes the campiness all the more delightful. 14 years old. His favorite word in drama class is 'penis'. Teaches Sunday school to elementary school children. "Can you believe the Pope's comments in Africa about aids and condoms? That is so ridiculous!" Thinks Georgous George "has to be" the Pope's boyfriend. Another sterling example of the future of the Church, folks.
Paula, the most outspoken of my Catholic students in her disdain for Catholic leadership. Very witty and acerbic. "I'm spiritual, not religious." ..."Oh, I don't want to talk about them (Church leaders). They're so stupid. What do they know about anything?" Joan of Arc is her favorite saint because she showed up all the men. Thinks Gay Catholics should have big weddings in the forest on Petrin Hill (in the center of Prague next to the Cathedral), just to 'flaunt it' in front of the Cardinal.
Thomas, makes self deprecating comments about his fashion sense and what this might imply about his orientation, but the general sense we have around him is that he would rather we not bring up the subject of his own proclivities at the moment. He has too much on his plate, with college applications and upcoming IB exams. As to how he deals with the issue of being Catholic and it's anti-gay stance? "I compartmentalize, Mr. Cameron. When I get to college, I'll deal with the issue."
Last but not least, the most loving of the 'bad boys' in the drama program, Matt from Northern England. British boys seem to have a unique sense of humor in their relations with gay teachers. Whenever I have a fit over his tardiness, he gives me a hug and a kiss (in front of everybody!) and says, "You rock my world, Mr. Cameron, you make my dream." He's just 'bad' enough to get away with it. "Not a deep thinker, man" and not given to inner reflection. When asked by his English teacher if his recent play was a reflective play, he replied, "Jeez, I hope not!" His advice to the Bishops of the Church regarding gay marriage, "Make love, not war, man!"
And there you have it, folks, the future of the Church, at least from one little tiny section of the world.
I should probably add an addendum to this. I've never taught in the US (apart from one student year in an elementary school many years ago) so I can't testify to the experience of being gay and being a teacher at the same time. British friends of mine say things are very 'tight' in the UK and they must be very cautious. In the International School climate, however, things seem to be very different. Prejudice exists, of course, and 'gay' is still frequently used as an expletive, but personally I've never encountered the slightest hostility towards myself as a gay teacher. I did have one boy in Bangkok tell me quite honestly, "I don't like gays," but our relations were always cordial. "Faggot" is sometimes used in anger, sometimes in jest, but on the whole there are far worse places to be as a gay young person or as a gay teacher than in an international school. Students are very aware of the 'pedo' problem, of course, but they also seem to have a natural instinct for whom they can trust. I've been on the receiving end of countless very witty, outrageous jokes and numerous curious questions about my 'boyfriend,' to which I give no reply. On the whole, students in the drama program are deeply sympathetic to a gay teacher and very much want 'us' to have a normal romantic life. I am a solitary by vocation and inclination and this is, quite honestly, a disappointment to most of my students, who very much want to see me linked up with someone. They would find it 'super cool' if I showed up with a partner. In the absence of that, they content themselves with outrageous jokes, some of which I've described above. Through their good humor, they convey the very clear message that it's OK to be gay.